Lena - Is ML a no-no. That is a very hard question as each sitch needs to be judged on it's own merit and we all feel things differently so what is right for one may not be right for another.
I personally do not think that ML is the wrong thing to do but when you are ready to step back a little and look at things just try and make sure he is not just using you for sex. If you can keep it in perspective and not think b/c you have ML that means things will change then you will do O.K.
So I would say go with whilst you can handle it but when it hurts you emotionally too much or you can't cope then stop it.
Michelle somewhere has something that covers this and she says sometimes ML is the only thing a couple shares even when there is no talking and it kind of keeps them bonded together and ends up forming a basis for more eventually. Now this isn't true in all R's but it does happen.
I am just going to go and see if I can find where Michelle wrote it I will get back to you in a second...KDU
