I'm not divorced yet myself, but being Catholic I wrestle with the same questions and also the old "what God has joined together". Thinking in those terms I wonder about so many aspects of our religion. After all it is one of the sacraments. I also worried about what this is telling my kids. Of course everything that I have gone through in this whole mess has made me stronger and a much better Christian. I'll just have to accept that as being part of the plan.
I believe that we all have a lesson to learn from this. Maybe it's nothing more than to sit back, knowing that we are not in charge and to be thankful for what we do have. Besides what we know now that we didn't know then is that being in a marriage with a P/A personality means that we were never in charge, not really.
Concentrate on you and what you want out of a life without your wife. You never know, God does work in mysterious ways..........
Love, Bethie
Gabe,
My best advice to you is to detach. That to me was such a hard concept, but it was the only thing that brought me peace. Knowing all of the gorey details of our spouses lives does nothing but bring us pain, so it's best that we don't know. I had to talk to myself constantly to remind myself that my husband wasn't here because he didn't want to be and there was not a blessed thing that I could do about it!
Concentrate on you and what you want out of a life that doesn't include your wife. None of us know the turn that our lives will take and that in itself is very exciting. God does work in mysterious ways...........
