You've brought me out of retirement, which is probably not a good thing.
I've been giving thought to some of your post and wish to offer my thoughts.
"I don't necessarily agree that a D paper or one's behavior negates one's spiritual M vows, . . ."
This one I do not begin to understand. We would all like to have revived our marriages in a much more positive way, but this did not happen. The EX-spouse broke those vows, spiritual, physical, emotional when they left. There is no more marriage or intimate R.
Personal, specific, perceived negative behaviors may or may not have an adverse affect on children, but unless the children are in some harm or fear, we cannot question, police or control another's behavior.
We make all make personal choices and many may agree or disagree with them, but they are OUR personal choices.
"It'll be better for him and me for me to break from this DBing for some time or completely."
DBing is NOT about behaviors designed to elicit reactions or responses from other people. DBing is about becoming a better person, which you have done a tremdous job. But you are still too occupied with how your actions are perceived. Be yourself. You are a very good self and when you start calculating and measuring your self, you are not a true self.
