K, she's still reinventing herself, but in a less frantic manner. Her hair looks fried - far too many colorings/treatments in too short a time. She has naturally beautiful chestnut-colored wavy-curly hair, so my observations about it on Tue referred to my noticing myself being attracted to her natural look, not the salon look.
Wes, I think one needs to balance things post-D. I'm seeing folks completely detach, then take their positivity and personal growth-selves, and jump into new Rs with their own OP. I'm not planning on doing that, for now. So I plan to keep some connection going with XW, some effort to keep DBing, and see what happens. I don't need her, but I still love and want her. I don't want the old R back, I know the old her is gone, but I'm seeing enough of the positive qualities in this 'new' XW to realize that an attraction is still there. I've seen glimmers of an attraction from her to me, but even if this goes nowhere, a friendship is better than not.
We had quite a bit of interaction yesterday. Phone call in the morn, then attendance at S6's parent-teacher conference, then sitting and chatting during his swim lesson. As we wrapped up the PTC, when I noted that I might skip his swim lesson to get some work done, XW noted that S6 really appreciated my being there, so I reversed myself and said I'd be there. She smiled brightly, then honked and waved when they exited the parking lot. During our convo at his swim lesson, she seemed to open up more about herself, saying at one point, "Gabe, I'm just so tired. I've never been so tired. I could sleep for days." I was able to actively listen and she seems to appreciate this, as she's keeping the convos going. Not all negative stuff, though. She told me about her latest yoga position successes, and I was genuinely impressed, and told her so. We were able to laugh and joke about things as well. It felt good to share that.
She'll have S6 thru Sun morn, as they're going to see the ILs who are taking them to Disneyworld. XW noted that they're heading back Sat instead of Sun. Important point, as they usually press her to spend as much time with them as possible.
I'm doing some contract work this am, then I'm sneaking out of the office to do some kayaking this afternoon. Looks like this is going to be a gorgeous day.
