Quote: At dropoff, S6 complained loudly about having to return to her, proclaiming he didn't like being with her, so I sat him in my knee (in front of her), described his beh as rude, acknowledged that his being transfered back and forth was hard, and told him that his mother and I were trying hard to do our best, but that he couldn't be rude to her.
He's a hurtin' dude, and I think he's beginning to blame her for his hurt. He doesn't have the emotional maturity to DB, nor should he, so he's responding as a child. You showed him what you expect from him, but I wouldn't be surprised if it'll happen again, until he can make his own peace with XW's actions.
I still feel bad about my parents' D, and they remarried one another, with no intervening Ms, 8 years later.
As XW grows, she'll be able to do more for him, and as long as he has a stable influence from you, he'll be ok. Someday he'll even come to know that himself. Then it'll be your turn to be polite and say, "You're welcome, S."
Thanks,
K
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