Merrick, Steve, and Julie - thanks for the props. I often wonder, but I am trying hard.
Bruce!
Jo, I'm not so sure. I've been wrong before re women being attracted to me, but I just don't get that from her. She's one of my students now, and they often come to me for advice/help, as I'm a mentor. I have no attraction to her, as she's married and my student.
I sat with XW during S6's swim lessons yesterday eve. He beamed to see me there, and she came over to me, sitting 1 row down from me but looking back to talk. She complained about her condo, noting there are few children, that its noisy so she has trouble sleeping (the house is soo quiet - I'm sleeping so much better!), and that she will look for a house once she gets tenure (~4.5 yrs). She asked for two lounge chairs that I have, so that she can sit out on her porch. I said sure.
She noted a few ailments, complaints as well, commented on a few coworkers "not liking" her or talking about her (I doubt it - likely her being paranoid about her summer behavior getting out, as she was partying with students).
I still get a very "self-focused" feel from her. She asked about my dad's health and literally seemed to lose focus/not hear my response. I validated and listened to her as well as I could, shared a bit about my goings on. I noticed that I didn't need her to really hear me, didn't 'need' her to be there in the moment with me. I feel stronger.
Her invitation to have me watch S6's swim lessons conflicted with my typical workout time, and I debated not going, but instead juggled my responsibilities and worked out beforehand. That was wise, as I was more relaxed and confident when with her.
