Thanks for that reminder to shift focus. I did and we had a great time. S6 seems to be really taking to my living at the house, with his laughing and mine filling the house nicely at times.
Sunday in particular went well. I played guitar for him, and he picked it up, strumming and belting out a song that he made up on the fly. I need to film him next time. We went shopping and I bought us some clothes play shoes for S6. As a 'house-warming' gift, I bought XW a woman's version of an excellent pair of running shoes I've fallen in love with. She's still running, but tends to buy cheap versions that leave one's knees aching. It seemed a nice mixture of personal (I know her size, adn we used to run together), caring, and not something she'll place in the condo somewhere, than forget about.
XW called Sun night, and S6 and I were returning from dinner out after evening Mass. I stayed on and shared some stories from the weekend with her, with us laughing about S6's escapades. I told her about his experiments with his new allowance (started Sat), and we discussed his behavior and ways to improve it consistently, with me asking her questions and complimenting her ideas a few times. She mentioned that she had 2 tickets to a fundraiser dinner/dance, and wanted to know if I could use them, as she "didn't have anyone to go with." I said I didn't either, but I didn't ask her to go with me - felt premature. I'd still like to work on friendship, and she still has the RO in place (I think). XW mentioned that she' undergoing tests for cancer and would keep me informed if anything shows up. I chocked up a bit when she said this, wasn't expecting it, and I merely said stupid stuff like "oh no!" "I'm so sorry" and "thank you, yes, I want to know."
We stopped talking there, as S6 started acting up b/c he wanted my attention, and she said g'night to him and hung up.
