Lost, you're right - I know who I am, and even 1 year ago, her labels of me had more to do with justifying her choice to D than the reality of our M. It just leaves me with a sinking feeling in my stomach, almost despair, b/c I know reality, and I can't do a thing to get her to face the reality of us or me. I think that's what you mean by her issues.
M, I continue to hear some things from mutual friends. A few friends were supportive of her, and cutoff contact w/me without ever speaking to me about the M or S/D. Others who interacted with both of us noted early on that they heard about both sides of the M from me (my mistakes, but hers as well), but no acknowledgment of any fault from her. This struck them as significant, yet 2-3 continue to try to support her and I separately.
I know to take it with a grain of salt, and have avoided it from the most part, as it tends to get me off of center.
Enjoying a good weekend with S6, nice brief dropoff convo with XW. Have a good weekend, everyone!
