You have grown so much through this process and continue to grow... Unfortunately, many people on this BB were unable to save their marriages, but thankfully they did have the ability to save themselves and grow to a new place of self-awareness. This is true for you also, Gabe... You are such a wonderful inspiration to me. I wish I had the strength you show all of us here with each of your posts.
As you recently mentioned... "Life is not fair and although you may allow yourself to grieve the loss of your M, you will not feel sorry for yourself--- Nor will you expect to have things end your way- You can only control yourself"... Gabe- as you know, the healing will take quite some time--- However, I see such a great mind set from you. You will not let yourself become someone that can not move forward. I truly admire you for that...
I think you are such a wonderful man... I really wish your W could have recognized that b/c I think it is so unfair to put you through so much pain--- You surely don't deserve this (no one on this BB does...) Gabe, you will have so much more to offer in a relationship than you ever did because you survived, healed, and grew from this experience... I know that you probably feel frustrated wondering if you will ever find someone to trust and love again... I KNOW YOU WILL... My only question is whether she will be good enough to deserve you! I hope you have the continued strength to be good to yourself, treat yourself with love and compassion, and most importantly--- PATIENCE... Thinking of you... Your friend, -KIM
