Know what I hear a lot of on here, from everyone? Wild speculation. While it may be true that your XW is unhappy, angry, and may even have regrets, it may also be that it has absolutely nothing to do with the divorce. She might be pleased about that and just a little down that she hasn't found someone else yet. Or perhaps she's so deleriously happy and GAL that she doesn't have time for things of less importance like housework, birds, or flowers. We all have a habit, me included, of putting the spin we prefer on each situation. Even if they are absolutely miserable, there is no reason to suspect that our XS sees us as a logical cure for that. Most probably do have anger built up, but unless significant time and new, less painful memories of us take the place of the old ones, I don't see a whole lot of reason to suspect that they'll "wake up" and smell the coffee.
This is my way of saying in a Brucian way that there is still too much focus on XW. It's okay to be sympathetic if sympathy is called for, but your sympathy is based on speculation about her state. Continue to work on yourself, including thinking primarily about your own happiness, and less on your XW. She will do whatever she is going to do.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
