I am not picking on you, really I’m not, but this statement “People do change and they have to be allowed to change” again differs in relation to men or women. It must also be considered in a time context. MY perception is that with women, this statement is not time dependent. I think woman reserve the right to change at any time, for any reason, and often without explanation. A man (in the eyes of a woman) is allowed to change as an evolutionary change over time, but on a shorter time frame, we are expected to be consistent in our emotions and opinions.
I gave the example of my wife. The flip side is that the few times when I got really mad and laid out an ultimatum, she took it as the way the world was going to be from that point forward, not if ands or buts about it. In other words, I am not allowed to vent and say whatever I want because it scares her and threatens her sense of security. But she can spout off anything she likes, and I am to supposed telepathically know when she means it for real and when she doesn’t.
This double standard is very frustrating to me and is part of the reason (I think) that men find it hard to honestly validate women. We don’t always trust that they know what they are saying. The best I can say is that I completely believe that women believe what they are saying. KWIM?
