cobra wrote
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while we validate what she is saying, we must not take it to heart that this will be her position tomorrow


This is exactly right.

Blackfoot, when you said "don't internalize it," that was exactly right, too.

People do change and they have to be allowed to change. I think one of the bad things that happens in a long term R is that both people get locked into each other's expectations and it's hard for one person to do something different and hard for the other to allow them to be different. That's one of the things about the affair that is so freeing-- you're with someone who has no expectations of how you should be, so you can behave very freely.

Things pretty okay at the moment, blackfoot. Thanks for asking. I'm in kind of a neutral/optimistic place at the moment.