she told the counselor as honestly as she could that there was no way she could ever see having sex with me again. The feelings were not there and too much damage was done
Never believe what a woman says especially when it has the word feelings in it. Yeah she feels that way, hence is thinking that -at that time- but feelings change. often daily.
Au contraire-- believe her! But as blackfoot correctly continues, this is a reflection of how she feels right now. And yes (lucky for you and all of us) those feelings do change.
Globule misinterpreted cobra's quote and said it would be a deal breaker for him if his W said "no sex ever again." But that's NOT what cobra's wife said. What she was said was (in effect), "Given the way I feel about you right now, I cannot see myself having sex with you ever again." And the implication is if those feelings change, then I might. Clearly the feelings did change.
Blackfoot, this: "Never believe what a woman says especially when it has the word feelings in it," was such an unhelpful way of putting it. Discounting a woman's feelings is not the way to her heart... surely you've figured that out by now.
