"They too do not believe your wife wants divorce." I guess the benefit is that my wife is willing to stick around for now. But is she doing from her own fear of seperation, or because of true love for me? I would like to think it is out of love, and I will try to base my actions on that scenario.
"I understand you are depressed right now and it is difficult to see anything down in a hole, but intellectually can you appreciate how your current emotions totally distort how you are evaluating things? If you could climb out of your hole and then look around, you could see the rest of the world and realize the blinders you had on. Those blinders are your emotions." Couldn't agree with you more. But even the stalwart Blackfoot admits in his post to me below that he allowed his view to be distorted by the stress in his life. Telling youself intellectually you are doing something stupid is easy, changing your emotions to be in-line with your intellect is hard.
"But as you climb out, the 180s can make a difference" I guess I need to get Michelle's book and see some examples of these 180s.
"If she is really finished with you, then none of this matters, but you have not said anything that would lead me to believe that." I don't really believe it either. I hope I'm not wrong.
"So I don’t see any course of action other than moving on the advice that everyone is giving you and forcing yourself to override your emotions and take an optimistic position." Easier said than done, but you are right. I'll work on it.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
