Have you found that doing that periodically helps clear your head
Clearing your head is not the goal for you with this exercise. I have been practicing clearing my mind for over two decades now and with the exception of affair am able to drop into 'no mind' state pretty rapidly. ( I can block it, but I have trouble processing thru it.) I let it slide for a long time there, ironically when I needed it most of course. Clearing your head is a differnt exercise.
Try out the suggestion, or some variation of it, i.e. go to starbucks and do it for 20 minutes. Let me know what happens.
Quote: she told the counselor as honestly as she could that there was no way she could ever see having sex with me again. The feelings were not there and too much damage was done
Never believe what a woman says especially when it has the word feelings in it. Yeah she feels that way, hence is thinking that -at that time- but feelings change. often daily. And pretty rapidly when you dont have a negative reaction to them. Let it go in one ear and out the other.
Women know (not on a cerebral level neccesarily)they are emotional creatures, if you act like one she wont be able to(someone has to have a grip), or trust that she is safe to be one, nor will feel attracted to you.
