"She wants to, just doesnt know if it is possible and isnt sufficiently attracted to want to do more then wait for him to 'fix' things. I repeat Globule she wants to, she wants it to be good. Believe this, act like this and she will believe it too."
I'm with Blackfoot on this one. I think we're seeing the same thing. DEEP down inside I think all women want things to work out and I think they want to forgive. They may not know this is feeling within them at the time.
Earlier this spring my wife and I were in our usual fighting mode, this time over sex I believe, and in session she told the counselor as honestly as she could that there was no way she could ever see having sex with me again. The feelings were not there and too much damage was done that could not be reversed. She was very convinced of this and the counselor did go over this topic for a little while to be sure she understood what and why my wife was saying this.
Well, at home we latter had some big, long drawn out talks (I had to drag her into them) and TWO WEEKS later, we were having sex and getting along quite well. (Things continued to go up and down since then. We are down right now.)
But my point is that women's decisions are influenced so much by how they feel. Some are aware of this and understand how their intellect is influenced by their emotions. Others may say they know it, but still can’t fully control it. For me, I learned that my wife is not able to forecast her ability to make a decision any further than 2 weeks into the future. This was a crack in her outer shell that allowed me to see into her soul that gave me great insight about how she operates.
OK ladies, I’m sure there’s something in there to offend someone, so let ‘er rip!
