Sorry, one of the pitfalls of MB communication. I thought you were making the point that both partners need to see that there is something wrong before any real change can be made.
I'd be happy to let my wife sometimes take the pilot's seat in our (hopeful) trip to marriage recovery. I have a great respect for her intelligence and problem-solving ability.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
