“The only other person I can think of that would fit would be my younger brother. He has always sort of looked up to me as his protector (ironic, eh?).”
Don’t you think this says something? Maybe the common link to you feeling “yourself” has less to do with the other person, than the message they are giving you. Admiration can be addicting, especially if you feel like you’ve never had any before. Kind of like an emotional affair, don’t you think?
(And this is my personal, amateurist opinion, not to be taken as diagnosis. Better, Chrissy?)