When we were first married, my wife could go two weeks easy without speaking to me. Now, if it is a biggie, I let about 3 days pass, smaller things need a day. Cobra, that would drive me over the edge into insanity. I'm always surprised to hear how many couples actually use this "technique" to deal with marital problems. Avoidance to the extreme. I believe you fantasize too much, which in part has led to this problem. Fantasy works both ways, you dream of what you want, but you have the disturbing visions too. Yep. Got to agree with you here. An A makes this even more likely and it is so hard to break out of that mentality. I would advise you telling your wife that you will completely break things off with the other woman, and do all you can to avoid her at work. And saying she broke things off with you does not say much about your intentions does it. Basically your answers were all conditional, leaving the door open should things not work out with your wife. This is why she was quiet. That's a good educated guess as to her quietness but still it is a strange reaction. I agree that the OW being the one to break it off puts Globule at a disadvantage with his W. Both of them will be saying "What if.." Globule, does she know the details to the point of the OW being the one to end it? If not, I would play that down.
