"I feel the need to throw in here that it's going to take some time...if you can channel your energy to see this as a challenge, it may help with the sense of urgency you feel." Good words, I need to hear that kind of thing over and over until it sticks. I am SUCH an impatient person when there is a problem to be solved. I'm the kind of person that if someone wrote a physics problem down on a piece of paper and put it on my desk, I wouldn't be able to stop myself from trying to solve it right then and there.
"It's like you and W have to build your own marital interferometer to chart out new territory...the C will help to provide a clean lens, but there is going to be a lot of trial and error." NICE!!!! I always appreciate astronomy analogies. I'm definitely into kicking my relationship analysis up into high resolution mode. And there is nothing worse than a dirty lens to foul up your image. Of course, you can correct almost anything these days with good flat fielding (I'll be impressed if you catch that one ).
"What kind of influence does her mother have on her?" Too much if you ask my opinion. One of our worst arguments got started about a year ago when I told W that I hope she doesn't turn into her mother (YIKES that was a bad call on my part, gotta work on my internal filter). You know, her mother isn't overall a bad person, but she has some things that really torque me for some reason, and a some of those things rubbed off on the W. For example, her mother will absolutely be in tears if someone is coming over to visit and she doesn't have time to make the house absolutely spotless. My wife was that way for awhile, but fortunately she found the "fly lady" stuff on the web which helped her calm down. Also the MIL is very much into all this ultra-politeness stuff. Being polite is good, don't get me wrong, but you can take it to extremes. MIL actually got on my case not too long ago because I was teaching D2^2 my real name. She was going on about how I shouldn't teach them to say the first names of adults because they should always refer to them as Mr or Mrs so-and-so. Yuck!
"Somewhere she has internalized the message that it's reasonable to give up a sensual identity...I can tell you that underneath, she is not happy about this. Your changes will help to create health within her, a win-win situation for the whole family." Boy I hope you are right, because I am not seeing ANY sensuality coming out of her right now. And she seems to be more scared of the changes in me than it helping her find her innner sensual side. Time and patience ... Time and patience, gotta keep repeating that to myself.
Thanks. He is great. He makes the cutest little cooing sounds after he is fed, breaks my heart.
I love good music.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
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