Quote: But the question I have is what is my strategy? Wait for her to get the anger out of her system? Try to prod her into releasing her anger? How do I encourage her to communicate?
Your strategy right now should be to allow her to heal from the birth of your newborn, all the while being loving and charming and all the things that you want to be.
I think you are being incredibly unfair to your wife. She is certainly guilty of ignoring you but your timing is SO awful that it will only set you back farther and farther and, yet, you keep plowing ahead because you are distraught over the OW and want to have the feelings back that you had with her, yesterday.
I'm telling you this so that you don't lose your marriage, ok? Women are extremely intuitive. If you think that your wife has not put 2 and 2 together and know that your sudden desire to work on the M is due to an influx of OW-related emotion, you are vastly selling her short. She knows it. She is also calculating exactly how far along in her pregnancy she was when you began the affair and how far postpartum she was when you began pressuring her to be a better wife.
Your timing is so collossally bad that I cannot keep quiet any longer! Glob, PLEASE for the sake of your M and kids, just chill for a few weeks and let the woman heal.
You have 3 weeks to wait until counseling. Surely you can work on yourself in that time and shelve any demands for how you would like her to be? This will do wonders in terms of how willing she will be to work with you, in the future.
It is not your wife's responsibility to heal the pain from your affair.
Now, having said that: How about some personal goals for YOU? Let's hear em!
