I'm sure my H felt the same way that you do. I remember once thinking that he had given up OW and he was just moping around the house. I had done some reading, so I recognized this as his grieving process, and at the time, I tried to give him some extra loving. I was also taking most of the responsibility at that time for the troubles we were having. Had he not given into the feelings he was having, and had he really given up OW at that time, when I was still motivated to keep our marriage from failing, I really think we would have stayed together.
I know it's hard to give up that emotional high of being with ow. Being recreated in our lover's eyes. We are new and fresh and unspoiled. Given that chance to start anew is hard to resist. But think of the benefits of staying; your family intact, your R with W strengthened by the ordeal, coming out the other side stronger and happier. It is possible, you just have to work for it.
