I don't think Chrissy's comment was proposed in order to give him a hard time. I think it was an accurate assessment of what some betrayed spouses might be feeling under the same circumstances Yes, I see your point. I think I was reacting more to her comments that it is not considered "manly" for men to cry. Not that she was agreeing or not, but it obviously made her uncomfortable. Someone else I think mentioned something similar, implying that his crying was not an acceptable way to handle his feelings. Let's face it, boys are taught from a young age not to cry. Anyone who deviates from the societal gender roles is looked at as "abnormal". I just think men and women should be able to express their emotions in any way that THEY feel is cathartic for them. We should not judge Globule for crying, whether it was about OW or not, in front of W, or not. He was obviously distraught over his LIFE not just OW. As for the crying, my impression was he tends to do this alone, as he has stated many times, so that his W and family do not hear him. Maybe he will clear this up. MrsNop, you just asked for more details on how the W was told, etc so I'm sure Globule will let us know what he thinks.
