"My past experience as a LDW is fresh enough to relate to your W." Great news! I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to get your perspective on her and her actions. If you have any questions about us that you think might help give you clearer advice, please ask! Nothing is off limits as I do desperately want our M to work. I'll probably directly ask you for your take on certain events as things go along too. I think your perspective can help me figure things out.
"For chronic LD people HD is hard to achieve and maintain. It's worth the effort. " I am definitely going to read your thread if you talk about how you did it. If not, I am definitely going to be asking you questions from time to time about it. If you have the time, maybe you can summarize some of the high points in your journey from LD to HD.
"What is your objective for your R? Do you see any way that you and your W can align your objectives?" I want the following things (in no particular order) (A) a healthy, active sex life that both of us are happy with where we both initiate, we both are open to experimentation, and we both see it as the ultimate act of love (B) a healthy amount of affection. Hugs, kisses, caresses, massages, etc. etc. etc. should be prevalent in our interaction with each other. (C) I want a healthy communication about our relationship. If I'm not meeting her needs, I want to know. If she is not meeting mine, I want her to be open to me talking about it. (D) I want to do things with her, vacations, night-out-on-the-town, or just watching movies at home together. I want to do things with her without the kids, and with the kids both.
Well, let me explain what the feelings were for OW and maybe you can help me decide if they are worth duplicating (A) I felt like I could say anything and she would listen to me, understand me, and not judge me (B) I felt like we had the same general goals in life (C) I felt passion when she looked at me, or smiled at me, or on those brief instances when we touched (D) I felt like she cared about me (E) I felt like she was willing to make time for me (F) I felt like she admired me (G) I felt like she was attracted to me physically (H) I felt like it wouldn't have been much effort to get into a mode where we could ML (although that is a guess) (I) I felt like she would be open to doing new things (J) And everything that I just mentioned I felt for her in return and she appreciated it openly
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
