I have always said that if my H ever cheated there was no way I would take him back, now I justify it becasue there was no PA. The bottom line is you need to what is best for you and your family and until anybody is in your shoes they have no room to judge. If these people are your "friends" than they should support your decision and be happy for. If it comes up again just think about simply saying "Everybody handles things differently and nobody really knows what they would do until they are in the situation. I understand that you don't agree with what I/we have done (are doing) but as a friend I would appreciate your support, if you can't support us than at least give us the respect to keep your negative thoughts to yourself."
And if your friends are really that negative you may want to consider distancing yourself from them and moving on to a more positive group of people.
