Looking to the future to let the past fade away!!

[DonH]

Some great thoughts and comments there. So perhaps H is over the OW but you still are not. That is a very commen problem and one that you can certainly work on. If H has let go of the A but you continue to bring it back and put it front and center, that will cause problems. On the other hand, if H has not given up the OW and you sense this, it is again something that can't be swept under the rug or it will never allow you to put your M back together. I cannot at all tell you which is is. Perhaps it's a little of both? Who knows. All I can say is that from reading what you have written, it would seem that there are still OW issues going on here that have to be dealt with. Don't allow the temptation to sweep them under the rug because that will just cause more problems in your R. You are looking at this with a very honest eye. I think that is great and is so important to dealing with it. Keep at it and hang in there. Keep up with the honesty and the communication with H to get OW behind you for once and for all.