Hi 2much. How are you doing? I read through most of your last thread, however, I didn't really see the reasons for the downfall of your m. Did H tell you why he felt the need to have an EA or behaviors in you that he doesn't like, etc.? Also, have you read "Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man?" It's pretty good and offers some insight to what goes on in their heads sometimes. Seems like he's not being very upfront about how he feels. (Unless he has been before.)

The one word that comes to my mind b/c it seems similar to my H is "REBEL." People fear losing their independence in R's, and need to have some balance. Seems like your h wants to do everything you don't want him to do. I know it's no fun!!! However, the best way to deal with that is to give him the room to feel like he can do what he wants without feeling controlled.

I can see what you want from him as far as spending time with you and giving you PT, but it just looks like the more you ask/assert yourself, the more he backs away. Is this correct? It just looks like he doesn't have much to give at this point, and as your recent article states-if they don't have enough IN, they can't give anything OUT. So, perhaps trying to connect more with him on HIS level will help him to feel safer with you and enable him to eventually give to you.

karen812