Honeypot, I think my W and I have repaired our latest rupture. We had S last night and did a session of kissing. She said that she does want to have only S, but hopes to include other activities such as oral S. She had made a comment earlier that our sex was just sex, and she wanted to make love. I had interpreted this as she didn't enjoy our S, so was going to be reluctant about asking for it, and was going to focus more on the kissing. At least we're talking about it, and reconnected sexually last night. Our sex life was barren for many years; this is why it's new territory for us.
We have plans to go to latin dancing tonight at one of our regular venues. I believe our M would be going in a different direction if it weren't for the dancing. We now dance 3X per week. Prior to the separation, we danced 3X per year. The dancing serves as a means to promote connection, amplifies positive emotions, and connects us to a community of dancers. Saying yes to dancing almost a year ago was one of my wiser decisons. I benefit personally, as my mood is better, my life more balanced, and my social confidence increased.
I'll keep posting, as I'll need help in managing fear when we hit bumps in the road. The issue of physical intimacy also remains unresolved. She feels like she is not yet getting this need yet. Until we find a happy sexual and physical medium, this issue will remain a thorn in our side, and may ultimately lead to the demise of the M.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
