8-24 Well, H and I both went to work today. Things seemed ok before bed the night before. Of course, I still couldn’t get things off my mind. After school (I teach Kindergarten) something possessed me to look at our cell phone bill online. I was looking for numbers that I didn’t recognize and could be OW. Well there was another number that was dialed an average of 6 times a day. More so since H got home from Dallas. I dialed it. But no one answered. I wrote down the suspicious ones and took them with me. But I also looked at the date that this number first showed up on the bill. Well, it was long before the last week H was in Dallas. The last week H was in Dallas was Aug. 8-13. The number starts showing up on 7-24. And after thinking about it that was only a few days after H and I argued about him coming home that one weekend. Anyway, that freaked me out. I was on my way to get the baby and didn’t know what to do. I knew that if I confronted him about it again he would just leave. So, I called his best friend that he works with. He is also my friend. We do lots of things together with he and his wife. I hesitated to do this, but I didn’t know where else to turn. I needed to talk to someone that H might have spoken with him about our problems or anything. I just wanted to know how to help him and how bad things really were. So, I called his friend. I told him everything. Our friend told me that he loved us both and that I needed to do what I needed to do. I needed to think about that baby and set a good example for him. He said that H hadn’t told him about anyone else, but he had noticed the phone calls. That it didn’t seem to be me he was talking to and that H would walk away or leave the room whenever he talked on the phone. Now, I was afraid that this friend wouldn’t tell me what he knows out of loyalty to H. This friend did say that everyone has noticed that he is different and not himself. Well, I was balling so our friend told me to go get the baby and meet him at his house. So, I went to get the baby.
I ran by the house to get some things ready for the baby. As I was doing this my cell phone rang. It was one of those numbers that I called from the phone bill. It was a woman. She said she just saw this number on caller ID. I said “Is this Alene?” She said huh? Then I just asked “may I ask who is calling.” She said this is Laura. Ok, I felt some relief for some reason. But then I asked her if she was the one with the boyfriend in Oklahoma City and if she knew my husband, etc. She said she was a bartender at Applebea’s. Ok, Then I asked if H had talked to her about us. I was crying by this point. She told me to hold on let her pull over so she could talk to me. She told me to calm down. She said that H had told her that he had gone to Iraq and that it caused him a lot of grief and that we had a beautiful baby boy, etc. She did say though that H told her that I asked him for a Divorce!!! OMG what the ??? Even after all this mess I still can’t bare to say the word divorce. She said that she may have been half ass listening or something. She said that she met H when he and the guys he was in school with came to the bar at Applesbea’s (which I knew they did regularly, no big deal at the time). Said that H was even trying to set her up with one of them. She told me that she walked in on her boyfriend in the act with another woman and that they were in the process of working things out. I asked her if she knew about his woman that H had supposedly gone out with. She asked her name and said there was no one that worked there by that name. I told her where he said he met her and why he had called there to talk to her. She said that a bunch of people from over there go to applebea’s to drink after their shift b/c of their specials and that he may have talked to her then while she was there. Then, I asked Laura if she was the one that left him her panties and she said no. She kept saying calm down. She said she would answer any questions I had and be very up front with me. I asked her when the last time she talked to H was. She said oh about 4 days ago she guessed. So, I said ok. Then I asked her since she had been in a cheating relationship that seemed to be worse situation than mine if it was possible to get that trust back and be ok again. She asked “he is still sleeping in bed next to you isn’t he?” I said yes, and she said then it is always possible. She told me that one thing she wouldn’t do if she were me was tell him that I talked to her. She said that was a sure way to piss a guy off. Go through his phone records etc. I said Ok, and asked her if she was going to tell him. She said NO, why would she tell me not to do something and then turn around and do it? So, I took her for her word. She told me all of the numbers that were hers so I wouldn’t think they were anyone else. I actually felt very relieved after talking to her b/c he had told me about her and all. She told me before we hung up that I could call her any time if I wanted to talk. I told her thank you and goodbye. Then about 10 mins. later she called me back and gave me another number that might be hers on the phone bill so I wouldn’t freak out about it. I thought how nice of her. She seemed really sincere. Then I got the baby and we went over to our friends house. H’s job required a lot of late nights on the job and usually this buddy of his worked them too. He just happened to be finished that day, so we headed over there. Ok, here is a good point to post what I have so far. I need to go get the baby now, will post more when I can. Thanks again for hanging with me. More to come.
