I agree with you so much about DB'ing. I wish I had known about this when I first found out about my H.'s affair.

When I finally came here, and bought/read the books my attitude changed a lot, and it helped my situation SO much. H. has really responded to the changes, and now I see him changing for the better. It's like we have become the best of friends again--and we weren't for a while.

So, congrats to you on your happiness, and I hope things work out the way you want them to.

Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.