It's been a while. I only have one bit of advice for you...
RUN!!!
Michelle, ask yourself why do you want this guy? Why do you love him? Seriously, I'm on your side and I want you to be happy, but I can't see any scenario in which you are both 1) with him and 2) HAPPY! It's been at least 6 months that I've been following your (or)deal. In that 6 months, I have not seen ONE thing from him that shows you any speck of respect, love, admiration or caring.
I don't know what's going on in his head. You've said that you can't imagine what's going on in his head. Maybe we'll never know. What I think I do know is that you are young, attractive, have a great little girl, and a good job. That sounds like a decent combo to me for someone to have a life without putting up with a ration of sh*t they don't deserve.
I hope you don't get angry but every time you let him back into the house (into your life) and you listen to him say "everything's going to be OK", you just set yourself up to be knocked down again. I don't think you like being a bowling pin, nobody would.
Dammit Michelle, in my opinion, this dude's nothing but more trouble and more heartache.
Detach. LEGALLY!!
Let OW begin to be on the receiveing end of his verbal and physical bullsh*t. No more for you...GOT IT??
