One more thing about the book..I know people are probably not that interested but I'd feel like a heel if I left this part out:
MrH has said a couple times what a good husband HE is, after reading some of the 'before' testimonials. For instance, Barry is a couch potato who never helps his wife out at home. Actually I have no idea what the fella's name is, but I remember H reading this one out loud and saying What a dud! Plus, I've always hated the name Barry. (my apologies to all of you gentlemen named Barry, of course)
Anywayyyy, he is realizing that he's a pretty good H to me. I've always told him this, but he has this weird way of heaping scorn upon himself..blame, scorn, negativity, etc. MrsNOP has a good handle on him, in this respect. This is probably due to his religious upbringing as well as FOO issues with his excessively critical father, as well as my hard-driving style of relationship repair.
All of these 'black and white' stories seem to be helping him frame who he really is, who I am, what our strengths and weaknesses are, and where to go from here.
I am amazed that an R book is even mildly interesting to him.
And he IS a great husband and always has been. Just gets overwhelmed easily and wants to shove me to the ol back burner until he has time for me. This went from hurting my feelings slightly to being flat out unacceptable as our house filled up with kids and his attention was less and less.
At any rate, I'm feeling very positive today as we move forward together.
