Oh yeah. I read that book when I was married to my ex. Now, I wished I'd read "Light her on fire."
Seriously....I'm dealing with some massive BS from her lately, which is why I've been kinda quiet around here. The only good thing about it is that my W is being supportive and caring towards me for a change.
Hope your H gets some good ideas from the book. Good luck to you, HP.
One more thing about the book..I know people are probably not that interested but I'd feel like a heel if I left this part out:
MrH has said a couple times what a good husband HE is, after reading some of the 'before' testimonials. For instance, Barry is a couch potato who never helps his wife out at home. Actually I have no idea what the fella's name is, but I remember H reading this one out loud and saying What a dud! Plus, I've always hated the name Barry. (my apologies to all of you gentlemen named Barry, of course)
Anywayyyy, he is realizing that he's a pretty good H to me. I've always told him this, but he has this weird way of heaping scorn upon himself..blame, scorn, negativity, etc. MrsNOP has a good handle on him, in this respect. This is probably due to his religious upbringing as well as FOO issues with his excessively critical father, as well as my hard-driving style of relationship repair.
All of these 'black and white' stories seem to be helping him frame who he really is, who I am, what our strengths and weaknesses are, and where to go from here.
I am amazed that an R book is even mildly interesting to him.
And he IS a great husband and always has been. Just gets overwhelmed easily and wants to shove me to the ol back burner until he has time for me. This went from hurting my feelings slightly to being flat out unacceptable as our house filled up with kids and his attention was less and less.
At any rate, I'm feeling very positive today as we move forward together.
interesting, How in the world was he able to be a marine sniper if he nods off like that.....when I said tendancy toward extreme... definitely not moods, I was refering to when he does some activity he is 'all in'. I still think he is sleep deprived, one day of sleeping in is not enough to make up for that.
I have been keeping up with your post and am glad to see you moving back towards your H and becoming less detached from your sitch. I am seeing more and more of the Honeypot we all know and love surface. There are some changes that are apparent but I believe they are going to turn out to be good changes. And your H seems to be in a real growth period. I am so happy for you. I hope things continue to improve for both of you.
I have been keeping up with your post and am glad to see you moving back towards your H and becoming less detached from your sitch. I am seeing more and more of the Honeypot we all know and love surface. There are some changes that are apparent but I believe they are going to turn out to be good changes. And your H seems to be in a real growth period. I am so happy for you. I hope things continue to improve for both of you.
I have been keeping up with your post and am glad to see you moving back towards your H and becoming less detached from your sitch. I am seeing more and more of the Honeypot we all know and love surface. There are some changes that are apparent but I believe they are going to turn out to be good changes. And your H seems to be in a real growth period. I am so happy for you. I hope things continue to improve for both of you.
It happens if you click on the continue more than once. You can go back and delete the duplicate posts if you do it within a few minutes of when they post.
Hi blackie, He is not the "all in" type of guy. He came to a startling realization about 3 months back (we were talking about his job search and what job he is ideally suited for) that he never gives his all to *anything*. He always holds himself back so that if he fails, he can say "well I wasn't really trying that hard, anyway." You can imagine how well this attitude goes over in marriage.
He had a hard time in the USMC with all of their nighttime drills. Sitting up, doing the 'guard' thing...I can't recall what the technical name is, lol, but it's where 2 fellas sit up with their rifles and guard the platoon while everyone is sleeping. Well anyway, he had an awful time with this. The two guys would sit with their backs to each other and the guy would complain that H was always jerking, falling asleep and waking up.
He probably is sleep deprived. There is no way he can get 8 hours of sleep, unless he skips Mass. We can't get our kids to bed any earlier than we do and I'm not interested in going to sleep before 9 anyhow.
