I jokingly suggested it because I had just ordered Light His Fire, but then the Mental Explosion happened and I never even cracked open the book. It is still piled under a bunch of crap at my desk.
H said several times, over the last two months, that he was going to read this book. It became...larger..in my mind than it needed to be. It became a symbol of all the stuff he's said over the years and has not followed through on. It was very tempting to buy the book and give it to him and pick up that damn rope. But I managed to ONLY go check it out from the library and keep it in my house until he noticed it. LOLOL Seriously, my plans were to take it back before he noticed and not mention it again.
Several interesting things about that book:
I was nervous about it, since it's obviously written from an HD man's perspective. This seems to have had two effects: Firstly, H is gaining confidence while he's reading about what "men" think and do and act. "Yeah! That's right...men are horny...nothin wrong with that!" That type of thing. Secondly, he has mentioned at least 3 times (he's only on the first chapter) how lucky he is to have a wife who does not withhold sex. He is reading the testimonials from other men and seeing how common it is and is sorta slapping himself and saying, Dude you hit the jackpot! What he is actually saying is more like, "You are the best wife. You are just so nice to me." etc.
Love those WOA! I think he is also seeing that his desires are quite normal and there's not necessarily an urgent need to subvert them all the time. He said last night that I am in for a surprise, now that he's loosened up--he won't be so apt to say "no" to everything. I was so stunned I couldn't say anything, lol. He also voluntarily stayed up last night and gave me a head-to-toe massage. OH and he complimented my choice of underwear. I said, Oh I didn't think you liked this sort of stuff--you told me once that you preferred white cotton. He said, I told ya--I've changed. !!
Anyway, now the guilt over my own book is starting to set in. I suppose I should tuck into it, and find out how to Light His Fire.
