Quote: Passive aggression is the control technique he uses on you.
I just don't see Mr HP as passive-aggressive. That's a term that gets bandied about quite a bit, usually in reference to someone who isn't given toward outbursts of anger, but who tends to hold back on strong emotions, including anger.
But that isn't what the term actually means. As you note, true passive-aggression is used as an attempt to control others.
Mr HP's control is an attempt to control *himself*. I strongly sense that he isn't attempting to disguise his anger or resentment or (insert strong emotion of choice here) so that he can stick it to Honey in a sneakier way at a later time.
If he attempts to control his anger or resentment, it is because he feels it is *wrong*. It is sin to him.
