We actually spoke about my temper just yesterday! He was re-living those days and I sheepishly validated him..Yes I was a bit over the top, wasn't I H?
Then after a while I reminded him how HE used to act--jealous, controlling, angry, hostile. He was amazed at the memory. You see, my H has totally changed his personality during the course of our M. So remembering that is a weird and strange memory for both of us. He said, Yeah I guess you had a reason for being angry at me! I quickly deflected this and changed the topic.
MrH tends to be a Blame Taker. He wants to take all the blame, gather it up and heap it on himself. Which sounds very nice but can actually border of selfishness. It's as if he's SO busy looking at himself and all the bad things he's done, that he's missing out on the good things that he could be doing in the meantime.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Lil, I have decided to treat the falling asleep episode as an anomoly. A weird bizarre thing that happened and has no bearing on what he's really like and how interested he is in me. I'm also going to talk to him a little tonight, not beat anything into the ground. He's really making a lot of progress in the last couple days. I hate to focus on the one (major) foulup, kwim.
