LFL, You know, the Success vs. Failure thing is all my own. I had this vision in my mind of what we were working towards and I foolishly did not stop to ask my mate if he shared this same vision. I could have saved myself a lot of headache. His vision is much less than what I was thinking of, but it's still okaaaaaay. It's not great passion but it's not awful either. Working together and creating joint goals sounds so...unpassionate...but I believe it's necessary. Good ol' communication about where you're going and how you're going to get there.
We have progressed SO much in the last 3 years. We are a shadow of the people who started down the road. Back then, we couldn't even utter the words sex or ML or any of it! We had sex in the middle of the night, at H's initiation, approx once every month to six weeks. It was dismal and lonely and awful. Now we talk freely, we are working together, and ML frequently. It's night and day. Despite the fact that I bitch a lot on my thread, I wouldn't go back there for all the $$ in the world. Things are so much better now, than they were.
I could outline all the ways in which we have failed to reach the mountaintop, but I won't. I think you have a good idea of the shortcomings in my R, anyway.
So I didn't mean to be discouraging! Keep at it and expect backslides and things to be alternately awkward and wonderful. It's the only way.
