The faults that I was accepting at the altar are in NO way the faults that I am having to come to terms with now. MrH is night and day from what he was 10 years ago
Of course not. Thats why marrying someone who we are IN love with is so easy AND so prone to failure. Marrying someone who we have no feeling for i.e. arranged marrige, there are no expectations. We are making a promise for some unknown future possibility.
I do think it is a good thing that we have the choice to divorce, but it is not a choice that leads to growth or maturity.
expected , if you wanna know the awful truth--a man who desired me and showed that.
did you expect them when you first met? Doubtful, most succesful R that lead to Marriage, have a decided lack of expectation. Expectations create such a tremendous burden that can be felt by the other person. When you drop them, you may and most likely will be pleasantly suprised.
MrH is stable, reliable, funny, generous, giving, helpful, kind, nurturing to our kids, strong, courageous, and faith-filled
he is not currently lusty, groping, aggresive with the sex, etc. I guarantee, were you to lose him for some reason you would soon be thinking of and remembering all the positives.
