Karen, I think I am finding it is a 2 way street. It is for our LD spouses to ramp up the interest, and for us HD folks to back off enough to recognize and appreciate the efforts our S's are making. It wasn't until discussing the efforts that our S's are making here that I could even recognize the efforts MrsGGB is making. She is way out of her comfort zone, and I have not been giving her much credit for what she has done in an effort to make me happier. See, sometimes it is hard to recognize effort if it does not come in the package we expected to see it in. I think HP saw a bit of this too. Once we learn to let go (darn, why is that so hard anyway?), then the relationship has a chance to grow in directions we never thought about. I am also getting the feeling that going through a serious bout of dontgivashititis is pretty much a necessary phase of the growth, as much as it sucks going through it.
