I don't know how much of Honeypots history you have read, but there is nothing in her history that would make me think "addict" either.
Honeypot, correct me if I'm wrong here but I think we are similar in this.
If her H did any of the things we as women have become accustomed to thinking a male does to show "desire" for her she'd probably be a much happier camper, she probably wouldn't have lost that "lovin feeling"....but he doesn't. She is a woman with a sensual nature, I am that way as well...if there were more sexual play in her relationship (not necessarily sex) she'd be more relaxed about everything but there's not. It's a love language of hers that he doesn't speak. He's making efforts now, but it took her completely shutting down emotionally toward him to finally start doing that.
Having a primal need left unfulfilled naturally will leave one wanting it more and focusing on it...that does not make one an addict. Some men (not thinking of anyone in particular here) have a tendancy to think of women who have a HD as nymphos or addicts....we can have as high a SD as many men. Would a man who wanted sex 4 times a week and also required other signs of affection also be a possible addict in your eyes?
