Hi Cobra, I'm not sure why a sex addiction is different if you are a woman vs. a man? Surely frequency preference does not an addict make.
My understanding was that addicts are willing to do dangerous things in order to get their fix. I can tell you that the most dangerous thing I've done today is voluntarily go into my baby's room after her diaper leaked and she soiled everything in her crib. I don't do outlandish things where sex is concerned. Period.
So I don't know about addiction, based solely on the fact that I like it more than "most women".
Quote: Possibly you just have pent up demand that will lessen after a week or two of high frequency sex.
I can tell you from past experience that this doesn't lessen my need. I seem to have a baseline level of desire and it either goes slightly up or slightly down, based on whether I am in love or not.
Quote: Could your longing for your husband also include this need for affirmation from him
Now this spoke to me....but don't we ALL want affirmation from our spouses? Is it really that weird? Do I need more affirmation from him than what is 'normal'? I don't know. I can assure you, though, that I get LESS than what is considered 'normal' so it could be that I am just focusing on the one thing that is missing in our relationship. (which is a normal thing to do--focus on what you are missing, just ask any starving person what they are thinking of)
Quote: But love avoiders will experience abandonment fears if the love addict stops pursuing them. This seems so contrary to the image they put forth. The avoider will also divert from the addict by himself becoming addicted to something else, like the kids, work or hobbies.
This was good stuff. I can see my husband in parts of this. He is quite obssessed with our religion, so he definitely has some of those qualities.
