I'm assuming you are suggesting that I'm in MLC, and not MrH, right?
It doesn't ring true with me. It doesn't have that 'zing' of truth, kwim?
I am not addicted or obssessed. I'm simply a woman who wants her man to want her and show her his desire. You show your wife that you desire her, right? That's all I want.
Quote: But often those standards are unrealistically high and impossible for most people to attain.
Is what I want impossible for the Normal Male to attain? That is an honest question for the fellas here. If it is, then perhaps you are right and I do need to reshape my thinking. I have this impression that men..you know, the "men" that society loves to talk about..love sex and women and everything that goes with it. Being with a man who has a hard--if not impossible--time showing me that I'm desirable to him does weird things to me. It used to make me want to seek that attention out from others, but now it just perplexes me.
Quote: tone down their expectations (along with changes by the spouse) to a more realistic level, and actually find more contentment. Could this scenario also be at play with you, only on a more diluted level?
Sure sounds like me! Only I picture those grateful people coming back home, happy to be reunited with loved ones and kicking themselves for their stupidity. I'm not doing that. I'm saying to myself, Self you still deserve this but you are banging your head into a brick wall. Time to stop the bleeding. He is what he is and that is a pretty great guy. It's not perfect and gosh DAMN am I sad and grieving, but what else can I do?
I don't feel grateful and happy to be 'home', so to speak. I feel somewhat sad at the thought of never being groped again or passionately ML to, or all the other "or's" that I could list but won't.
