"But my point is that looking on the ol' bright side does in no way help the grief go away."

SOOOO true!

"but I can tell you that women are bored by this."
So are some men

"I always wanted--no, expected , if you wanna know the awful truth--a man who desired me and showed that."
Replace man with woman and that's me

I really empathize with you and wish you the best getting through this to a happier place as I try to do the same

"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"

Inertia Creeps by Massive Attack