Quote: I realize that I have a lot of growing up to do and flat out acceptance of who he is and what he's about. He's a great guy and I will choose to be in love with him, lower sex drive and all. It's just that, in doing so, I will be giving up something that I dearly wanted to have in my life and I need time to grieve that.
This could hopefully be the roughest part of your marriage that you go thru. I see a lot of great things happening, in a set of circumstances that could have easily spiralled down. Of the 4 negatives you posted honey, only 2 are that big a deal, IMO of course.
Your comment about acceptance of who he is.. I understand what you are saying, but I thought that is what both parties stated they were doing at the alter. You have done a lot of growing. You are in the forest trying to look at the trees, but I think everyone here watching would agree with me.
It is far to early to be grieving. Your sex life is not DOA, not even close. There is way to much good here to be grieving. Your glass is half or more full, and you have a H who is putting in effort. His recent attitude change in dealing with you is remarkable. Frankly, I am blown away by it. Two thumbs up from me, Mr. HP.
Hence my light hearted remark, Lil. If it was rude HP will be along shortly to hand me a verbal beating for hurting her feelings, but your defense of her was a sensitive gesture.
