Quote: could he improve the times you do ML so that your satisfaction is higher each encounter, and you wouldnt need to do it more times each week?
I find that quality does not lessen my desire for quantity, if that's what yer askin.
Now, I don't want to sound like some sort of nutball..I don't have to have any particular number..it's just that my preference is about 4 times a week, and I'm totally fine with much more than that, and his is about 2 times per week with maybe a freebie thrown in there somewhere. So we are pretty darn close.
The problem you ask? Well, sex is the first thing to go when our weeks are stressful. So while his own preference is twice a week, there are many weeks in which this slips because he's stressed about the kids (we have 3 small daughters), or his job (which he hates) or money or (fitb).
And, to be quite honest, I'm not all that turned on by a man who has to remember to schedule me in, lest I get antsy. I know that sounds unfair.
I realize that I have a lot of growing up to do and flat out acceptance of who he is and what he's about. He's a great guy and I will choose to be in love with him, lower sex drive and all. It's just that, in doing so, I will be giving up something that I dearly wanted to have in my life and I need time to grieve that.
