I have not told him this yet, for my own selfish reasons. I realize this is NOT nice

Shrug. not nice? Do what works. It will come out of you when it is ready.

I am horny as heck but the minute I see him, I get choked up and feel like I can't access those feelings any longer. I am even having problems O'in

Your H is initiating more, doing it strongly, and making alot, tons of progress with you and your R from 2 months ago. He has a major worries about work,and beinga provider. another layoff?
Can the guy get a BREAK already. head shaking. anyways I have a feeling he may have insecurity about this and his new confidance with you is not congruent with the career stuff and may be manifesting itself thru body language or his mental vibe. So horney HP, but not for Mr. yet.
I ditto whoever said start looking for another job.
It takes courage, and even if you dont get a job from the interview, or are offered one you dont want, it will simultaneously remove this area of insecurity, and give him confidance.

onenight stands or no it is connecting. It is giving him confidance in that area, so there will be rewards to reap from this down the road. It is also preventing you from getting rusty and dusty.

If you cant O for the first time look at it as a strange occurance that is happening to you and will be funny looking back on. you wont die.
Your frequency is where you wanted it to be 3 months ago, but now you arent happy with something else.....LOL. Women.
so predictable.

Guys we will never win it will always be something, get used to it. Thats why I say give her what she needs not what she wants.

oh, almost forgot. Forget the book. Let it Go.