I think I am new to your thread, or at least haven't posted in awhile. Please excuse my ignorance to the particulars of your sitch. I am just going to comment on your latest post.
I assume you are keeping up with heather's thread and have read all the applicable books on this subject, yes? From this last post I assume this is not the first time you "badgered" him about his A, right? Do you feel that he's not really sorry, or do his actions NOT back up his verbal remorse? I think it will be hard for me to move past this thing my W has done too but for different reasons (maybe) then you. I feel that if my W ever took the kind of action and spoke the kind of words heather or amy have to their H's, I could forgive and move on, but if my W (as I suspect she may not) does not get to that level of true remorse for what she's done, I may do the same kinds of things you get angry at yourself for. I guess my advice is to look hard at what your H is saying and doing and see if it falls in line with someone truly willing to commit to a marriage that includes you. If it does, then maybe try to look at yourself and figure out what you need to do to feel secure enough to move forward. Trust can be a scary thing, and the worst part of all is that at some point, no matter how much we like to think it is either earned or given, it takes a leap of faith to believe in another human. Don't be too hard on yourself. It's a process. Just make sure you're involved in it.
