I think maybe you should not worry so much about what pleases your H and concentrate on what you want to do... And if you H wants to join in he can... From reading your thread you are in a good position that your H wants to try again, even though he had an A. Alot of us on here including myself have H's who have had OW and are still having OW... And just will not give them up at the moment, even though they still want us in their lives... Its a tough one, but you have the knowledge that your H regrets his actions and wants amends... My advice now is dont push him away by trying too hard and coming on too strong with him... By doing this their is a risk you could push him in the wrong direction and even into changing his mind... I think you need to start puting the past to bed and concentrating on making yourself happy. Start going out and enjoying yourself without your H.. Start GALing... Dont shut your H out, but let him start to see that you are picking yourself up and that you are not as NEEDY for him as you were before... Your H also needs time and space to come to terms with what he has put you through and his guilt, He probably struggles to do this at times, but it is something he has to deal with on his own and in his own time... hope this makes sense, but you can give each other breathing space but still work on your M...
