I e-mailed my MC about this situation and he e-mailed me back and said "the one thing you did hear is enough to be concerned about. that maybe what he is stressed about. something is going on that he’s hiding. lying, withholding info. are major red flags. you need to get to the bottom of it or pull the plug before you move back in"
I'm not sure I know what "or pull the plug" means but I guess I'll find out in session tomorrow night.