Hi Gwyn! Good to hear from you, you've been in my thoughts.

Today is not a good day for me. Nothing in particular has happened, I'm just feeling a little down. I've been so positive for weeks now, why am I feeling this way?

Well, maybe it's because you're human. Nobody feels positive 24/7.

Maybe it also has to do with your previous post of earlier today: "I want to stay M, I want to grow old with my H, I want my life back and frankly, it is for the taking."

Those kinds of thoughts can make someone sad. Thoughts about missing what you had, longing for it, feeling the loss of promises. You're also seeing the reality of the level of romance on your life and it's not adequate for you, so that's making you sad too.

Start thinking other thoughts instead.

Should I approach my H about moving back home or should I wait to be invited?

What does your MC suggest at this time?

I'd say, don't let your motivation be that you miss what once was, or want what may be. Deal with what you actually have, and that would be:

* you see some good happening with your R
* H hasn't asked you to come home yet
* the romance seems to be lacking if not gone
* are more like friends

Well, being good friends is not a bad thing.

So maybe things aren't quite to the point that moving back in would be in order.

I can't say what's going w/H... but if it's more romance you want, that sort of stuff can sometimes be jump started. It has to do with setting, timing and chemistry. You guys already have chemistry, so the rest is a breeze by comparison.

What are the things that speak to H's heart as being romantic and feeling that he's loved? Holding hands while strolling together? A candlelit dinner? Cuddling in front of a crackling fireplace? You baking muffins and the aroma wafting around the house? Arrange a few settings to accomplish that.

Then there's timing... H has to be somewhat open to these events. You can't force him to eat by candlelight if he insists turning the lights on. But, you know, if he goes along with the program, and you're subtle about this, not coming on like gangbusters, little by little he might start to respond back, "falling" into love.